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Ho’oponopono: Embracing Forgiveness & Healing

The Ho’oponopono practice isn't just words—it's a transformative tool for mending relationships, with others and oneself. This age-old Hawaiian method emphasizes reconciliation and absolution. Not limited to just the words, it's a comprehensive ritual for restoring balance in all relationships—be it with loved ones, ancestors, the divine, or oneself.

I personally use this practice as a means to forgive myself, to bring self-love and self-compassion to myself. And to right all the wrongs I may have caused knowing or unknowingly.

Its underlying essence? Everyone is responsible for their reality. Thus, even if another has wronged you, it is you who whispers, "I am sorry. Forgive me..."

The four cornerstones of this practice, each echoing profound emotions, are:

  1. I am sorry.

  2. (Please) Forgive me.

  3. Thank you.

  4. I love you.

One of my favorite ways to connect with ho'oponopono is through this song by the Emmitt Sisters.

"I'm sorry": The initial phase of the ho'oponopono practice emphasizes acknowledgment. By saying "I'm sorry," you're recognizing and taking responsibility for any events or misdeeds that have affected you or that you have observed. This step stems from the belief in our universal connection—what influences one will influence all. Accepting responsibility fosters humility and grace.

"Please forgive me": This is the stage of seeking atonement in Ho'oponopono. Regardless of your direct involvement in the wrongdoing, this plea for forgiveness aims to dissipate negativity and serves as a reminder of our shared humanity, facilitating healing and unity.

"Thank you": In the realm of Ho'oponopono, expressing gratitude is pivotal. Adopting a grateful mindset not only fosters positivity but also paves the way for healing and beneficial shifts in one's life.

"I love you": This affirmation is more than just words; it's an embrace of love and acceptance for oneself, others, and the vast universe. By uttering "I love you", you set in motion the forces of forgiveness, release from negativity, and the cultivation of inner serenity. It underscores the philosophy of Ho'oponopono, emphasizing self-appreciation and recognizing the profound link that binds all existence. Through this act of loving expression, one can initiate a journey of self-transformation and deepen connections with the world around.

The beauty of the Ho’oponopono practice lies in its simplicity yet profound impact. Rooted in a Hawaiian tradition, its resonance is felt by anyone seeking healing from life's myriad wounds.

Anyone that knows me knows that my practices are rooted in science and data. I love sharing the story of Dr. Len.

Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len's story, involving the transformation of patients in a high-security mental facility using the Ho'oponopono practice, serves as testament to its healing prowess. Instead of directly engaging with the patients, Dr. Len focused on healing himself with this the Ho'oponopono words, taking responsibility for all experiences, and astonishingly, the patients started showing signs of improvement, eventually reintegrating into society recovered.

In essence, Ho’oponopono is more than just a mantra—it's a journey towards inner freedom and a testament to the power of forgiveness, reconciliation, and love.

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